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When Should I Announce My Wedding?

When Should I Announce My Wedding?
Author : Wedding Photography Select

You’ve just made the most important decision of your life,you’ve chosen your life partner. Now brace yourself to make a million more tiny (yet significant) choices between now and the wedding, starting with the decision on when to announce your wedding.

First of all, don’t get ahead of yourself. Enjoy your engagement and the special bond it creates between you and your partner. However, it is worth bearing in mind that weddings don’t just come together overnight. The best venues and suppliers are likely to be booked up a year (or more) in advance, and you will need to work within these timescales as far as possible, while also giving your guests plenty of notice.

Here are a few classic dos and don’ts when it comes to announcing your wedding:

Do take your time
It’s natural to want to scream it from the rooftops the second you get engaged, and start planning for your big day immediately. But take a breath and hold back a little. Enjoy this blissful time when your imminent wedding is a happy little secret between you and the only other person who matters.

Once you’ve set a date, the countdown begins, so make the most of this time while it lasts.

Don’t forget about your suppliers
The timing of your announcement will depend greatly on the availability of your suppliers. After you have booked the venue, the next step is to choose your key vendors: the photographer, the florist, the caterers, the wedding band and, of course, the ceremony official. This is particularly important if you have your heart set on a specific person, as their availability may lead you to change the date.

stick to wedding tradition

Last year, Benedict Cumberbatch and Eddie Redmayne broke a million hearts when they announced their respective engagements in The Times. The traditional newspaper announcement is a classy and romantic way to precede any ‘save the dates’, and will definitely go down well with the older generations.

Don’t do it in a Facebook post
Yes, it’s free. Yes, all your guests (bar great-aunt Agnes) are on social media. But announcing your wedding in an email, a tweet or worst of all an updated Facebook relationship status, is a cost-saving step too far. Not only will you have to clarify your invite policy in a public forum, you risk turning your invitation admin into a full time job, as people will feel that they can just message you directly with RSVPs and any other tiny detail that comes to mind. Sometimes the tried and tested card in the post method really wins out.

Do I Need To Feed My Wedding Photographer.

Do I Need To Feed My Wedding Photographer.
Author : Wedding Photography Select

As the cost of your wedding escalates, it will be tempting to cut a few corners here and there. There are, however, a few moments when spending a little extra can prove beneficial. You don’t have to feed all of your wedding vendors, but ideally you really should offer your photographer something to eat.

Your photographer has a long day, he or she may have to travel a long distance to get to your venue, and then will be incredibly busy all day taking images of everything, from the preparations and ceremony, to the official portraits, your first dance, reception, and everything in between.

do I need to feed my wedding photographer

That doesn’t necessarily mean that you should seat your photographer with your guests for the evening meal, in fact, that may prove awkward for everyone involved. But you should make some suitable arrangements well ahead of the big day.

1. Ask for vendor rates
Some venues will offer you a discount (or complimentary) meal for key vendors, such as the photographer, videographer, florist and band. The most popular venues will be dealing with vendors on a near-daily basis so they will be able to advise you on the usual expectations. Many venues will offer the use of a smaller room or a public dining room where vendors can dine away from the wedding party.

2. Read the contract
Check your photographer’s contract before the big day, it is not unusual to find some provision for food in the small print. Your photographer may expect a sit down dinner with the other guests during the reception, and you don’t want to have an awkward situation on your hands when they can’t find their name on the seating plan.

3. Don’t forget the assistant
Many photographers will suggest that you hire a ‘second shooter’ who accompanies them and catches those unplanned moments. In the absence of a second photographer, they may instead opt to bring an assistant or trainee with them to maximise the quantity (and variety) of shots. In the week before the wedding, check in with your photographer and ask if they are bringing anyone else along. That will give you enough time to update the seating plan or alert the venue.

4. Co-ordinate the canapés
If you have arranged to have canapés or snacks served throughout the reception, make sure the caterers know to offer them to your photographer and other vendors as well. Hungry photographers = blurry photos.

5. Don’t feed them
Of course; if it’s not stated as a condition of their contract, you reserve the right not to offer your photographer a meal at your wedding. If you opt not to provide them with food, give them plenty of prior warning so that they can bring their own refreshments.

Can I ask for money for my wedding gift list?

Can I ask for money for my wedding gift list?
Author : Wedding Photography Select

Can I ask for money for my wedding gift list?

Traditionally, a wedding gift list existed to help couples set up a home together. While gift lists do still commonly include household appliances, furniture, kitchenware and linens, etc. some couples will find that they have already accumulated many of these types of items throughout their courtship. What is best to do if you find yourself in this situation? Rest assured, you are not alone. In fact, this scenario is becoming increasingly common, and couples are often left wondering what household gifts they could include on their gift lists.

Perhaps you feel that if you were to go down this path, you would end up requesting and graciously accepting items for which you have no real need. If this is the case, explaining your domestic set-up to guests will help them appreciate why you have come to this decision. After all, no one wants to be buying a gift that isn’t going to be very useful to its recipients.

A popular way of broaching the subject of money as a wedding gift, is in the form of a poem! A poem is very personal and shows that you and your partner have put time, effort & thought into your gift list.

Can I ask for money instead of gifts

Perhaps you and your partner share a passion for travel? Or, is there a particular experience you have both been discussing and planning?
Instead of just asking for money, it would be more thoughtful if you put together a list of ‘bucket list items’ that you wish you could indulge in during your honeymoon. This way, guests will know you have considered your selections carefully, and they will enjoy knowing that they have gifted you a particular experience.

Choosing this route enables you to write and thank each guest afterwards; detailing the memories from the particular experience they gifted you! A great tip if you’re looking to make your ‘money’ gift list far more personal.

Perhaps you feel you have everything you need, and you have no use for extra cash. If this is so, consider asking your wedding guests to make a positive difference to a charity or cause that you support. Let your guests know where their charitable contributions will be going and provide a little explanation of how you came to choose the fund, plus what it means to you as a couple. This is both a logical and ethical approach to your gift list creation.

In many countries, the accepted way of asking for cash is to write “no boxed gifts”. This is not common practice in UK, so if you choose this route, expect to have to reiterate what you mean, on request! Also, be prepared to receive household gifts that have been unpacked (from the more literal guests)!

The Pros And Cons Of Prenuptial Agreements.

The Pros And Cons Of Prenuptial Agreements.
Author : Wedding Photography Select

There are few subjects as divisive as a prenuptial agreement. You have found the person you love and you are preparing to spend the rest of your lives together, just as soon as you both agree to a series of legally binding financial commitments. It’s a bit of a killjoy, to say the least.

Your feelings on the prenuptial agreement will very much depend on whether or not you are the person who has requested it in the first place. You may be under pressure from your family to protect inherited wealth, or you may want to put something in place that ensures you and your partner are both going to be taken care of in the future, no matter what.

A prenup doesn’t necessarily mean that you are preparing for a divorce before you’ve even tied the knot. In fact, prenups are becoming more and more common these days and the stigma is starting to fade. So should you consider it?

The pros

If one (or both) of you have children from a previous relationship, a prenuptial agreement will protect their inheritance, should anything happen to you. If you have already made provisions for this in your will, a prenup will act as a sort of insurance policy on the off-chance that your will is contested.

pros and cons of prenuptial agreements

A prenup can help lay out the day-to-day and year-to-year financial arrangements for your forthcoming marriage. For instance, how are mortgage repayments going to be divided? Who takes charge of paying the bills? Who will manage the joint savings account? Money is one of the most contentious issues in marriage, so it can really help to have these things ironed out before the wedding. Once you get married, your tax liabilities will change, so this could be a useful opportunity to get on top of your soon-to-be joint finances.

Nobody goes into marriage expecting a divorce, but unfortunately, divorce does happen. A prenup is the only airtight way of protecting your assets and ensuring that any divorce proceedings are as (relatively) painless as possible.

The cons

There is no getting away from the fact that prenups are decidedly unromantic. In the run-up to your wedding, you want to be able to celebrate your love, not hash out financial agreements in case of a divorce. Money is a very sensitive subject for some people, and the prenup discussions could lead to a few shocking revelations and serious arguments.

Prenup negotiations can drag on indefinitely, and if you are up against a tight deadline, you risk making some bad decisions or missing a key point.

If you are asking your beloved to sign a prenup, they are well within their rights to draw up a version of their own and you might not like what it has to say. Traditionally, prenups were created to protect the existing wealth of one or both parties, but recently, they have been expanded to include potential custody plans, divorce settlements, and living arrangements. They can even feature clauses on infidelity, prolonged absence and anniversary ‘bonus’ payments. Make sure you know what you are letting yourself in for before you open that can of worms!

Tips for getting your guests to participate in the wedding..

Tips for getting your guests to participate in the wedding..
Author : Wedding Photography Select

There are a thousand things to worry about when you start to plan your wedding, but the number one concern for brides and grooms is making sure their guests have fun. Whether you are planning a small wedding with a few close friends and family members, or a huge celebration with hundreds of guests, you want everyone to feel involved.

With a bit of forward planning and a few simple tricks, you can guarantee that your wedding will be a day to remember for everyone involved.

1. Speak to everyone
This is the simplest and most effective way to make all your guests feel valued and included. On your wedding day, the bride and groom are the star attractions, and your guests will be lining up (sometimes literally) to offer their congratulations and compliments. However, you can’t rely on your guests approaching you. make sure no one feels left out by taking a few minutes to speak to each of your guests during the reception.

2. Decorate with photos
No wedding reception is complete without the requisite photo wall or family album. But among the embarrassing baby pictures of the bride and groom, include some special images of your guests. of family reunions, or nights out with friends. If possible, have at least one photo of each wedding guest alongside the bride or groom (or both), so everyone can have fun trying to spot themselves.

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3. Keep the kids happy
Create a designated kids’ area, complete with a dressing-up box featuring little wedding dresses and tuxedos, and set up an art table where they can draw pictures of the bride and groom. If your venue offers a nanny service, book ahead so that the parents can keep on partying after the children go to sleep.

4. Turn place cards into conversation starters
Seating charts can be a minefield, especially when a lot of your guests don’t know each other. Help them break the ice by including a ‘fun fact’ or question on their place cards. For instance: ‘Someone at this table has visited five continents. can you guess who?’ Alternatively, place a stack of questions in the centre of the table and get each guest to answer them, such as: where did you first meet the bride/groom? What is your favourite memory of the bride/groom? Tell us a secret about the bride/groom.

5. Make everyone a DJ
After the band has packed up its stuff, it’s time for the DJ (or iPod) to take over. You want to choose music that will appeal to all tastes and get everyone dancing into the wee hours, so why not ask your guests to create the playlist? When you’re sending out your invites, include a link to a music-sharing site and ask every guest to submit five songs. You will end up with an eclectic and extensive playlist that has something for everyone.

Everything a celebrant will do for your wedding

Everything a celebrant will do for your wedding

For couples getting married, it can sometimes be confusing as to what your marriage celebrant will be doing on the day. You might even find yourself asking “what does a celebrant do?”

But there is actually so much more to being a celebrant than just marrying a couple on the day, and a lot of work goes into the background to make sure everything goes to plan.

When you book a celebrant you’re not just booking someone to rock up on the day of the wedding and do a quick ceremony. You’re booking the main supporting character for your wedding day.

Your celebrant will be there for you before you book them to after the wedding day. Whether you’re after a ceremony with all the bells and whistles or a quick tailored ceremony, you’re investing in a celebrants time and expertise to make sure everything goes according to plan.

So if you’re unsure exactly what a celebrant offers your wedding planning journey, here’s everything they can do from before the wedding to after the honeymoon.
what does a celebrant do

Your first meeting with a celebrant is usually a non-obligation meeting for you to get a sense of what they’re actually like. It’s no surprise that booking a marriage celebrant who matches the vision for your wedding day is important, so meeting your celebrant before you book them is the first step.

This initial meeting can go anywhere between half an hour to an hour and will give you the opportunity to tell your celebrant what you have planned for the day and where you want them to fit into this.

This is already an hour of time that you’ve spent with your celebrant before you’ve even booked or put a deposit down and is the first of many correspondences you’ll have with them.
what does a celebrant do

Once you’ve booked your celebrant the next thing you’ll work on together is the wording of the actual ceremony. If your celebrant hasn’t already, they’ll talk you through the different types of ceremonies they’ve performed so that you can get a sense of what will best suit your vision.

Whatever type of ceremony you’re after, your celebrant will put this together and will work on the perfect wedding and order for you.

This isn’t just a case of putting together a template and reading it on the day. A good celebrant will tailor your wedding ceremony to you and your needs. They’re putting the wording for your ceremony together from scratch and will go back and forth with you as many times as you need before you perfect it together.

Your celebrant is also a great support and can help if you are writing your own vows. One thing you might not always think about is how the vows should match one another in tone, style and even length.

Your celebrant can act as a great third party for you and your partner to send your vows to make sure they match. This way you get to make sure they work together without seeing what the other person has written.
what does a celebrant do

When it comes to personalising your wedding ceremony, your celebrant is there to help. They’ve done this many times before and will help you with anything you need, whether it’s something common or something outside the box.

You might want to include a tribute to a family member who has passed or a hand-tying ceremony. Whatever it is, your celebrant will be there to make this happen.

They will also make suggestions for you if you’re not quite sure what exactly you want. If you want to involve your parents without quite knowing how they’ll give you suggestions about how you can go about that. Best of all they can help with ideas on not only what you can do, but also how you can do it.

The same goes for choosing readings. Not only will they have a great knowledge of what readings you can choose from or what might be suited for you, but they can also help coordinate who is doing what readings and making sure they all have what they need on the day.

what does a celebrant do

For couples who don’t have a wedding planner or coordinator, your marriage celebrant is the supplier who will be there throughout the entire wedding process. Think about this, they’re one of the first suppliers you’ll book and they are there throughout the process. If your celebrant is sick they can’t send you off to someone else in the business. And you know that it is always that person who you first met and get along with who will be there on the day.

Which means that they are the best source of support and knowledge for you throughout your entire wedding planning process. Whether you’ve got questions about other suppliers, your ceremony, or even if you’re looking for recommendations, your celebrant is there.
what does a celebrant do

75% of all marriages are performed by a marriage celebrant. Consider this, if you didn’t have someone to legally marry you then you’re essentially just having one big party!

Which is why celebrants are actually the most important supplier when it comes to getting married. When it comes to the legal stuff, they worry about all of the paperwork so that you don’t have to.

This means making sure all your identification and forms for your marriage license are filled out correctly ahead of time. It also means making sure that your witnesses details are correct, and that they can properly hear and witness you say your “I do’s”.
what does a celebrant do

Once all of this is planned and ready, your celebrant is there for you on the actual wedding day.

They essentially act as your ceremony MC, bringing guests in to fill chairs at your venue, telling people whether you’re having an unplugged wedding, announcing when photos will be taken or what is happening after the ceremony. And last by not least, actually marrying you!
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Are you hiring a photo booth for any other wedding-related events?
Yes, I hired one for my bridal shower/kitchen tea
Yes, we hired one for our engagement party
No, we’re not hiring a photo booth for any other wedding-related events

Not only this but many celebrants can also offer their own PA system for the ceremony, meaning that everyone can hear you say your vows and you don’t need to hire another supplier for this. Some will also provide you with a table and tablecloth so you have something to lean on when it comes to signing your papers.

They’ll also make sure all your paperwork is ready to go on the day. Whether it’s the wording for your ceremony, your vows or your personalised readings, your celebrant will bring a copy of all of these so you don’t need to worry if you’ve left yours at home. They’ll also have all the legal forms you and your witnesses need to sign on the day, and actually make sure you’ll all signing on the correct dotted line!

A good celebrant will also know where to stand for the ceremony to help you get the best possible photos. The last thing you want is a floating head in the middle of your first kiss photo!
what does a celebrant do

A celebrant’s job doesn’t finish at the wedding ceremony. While you’re off enjoying your honeymoon they’ll submit all of your legal forms to Births, Deaths and Marriages for you to make sure your marriage is actually recognised.

Meaning the only thing you have to do is what they legally can’t do for you; apply for your wedding certificate (rather than the decorative one) because it needs to be done by someone in the actual marriage.